Learning to Trust Yourself Again – One Step at a Time

Hey Friends,

Let’s have an honest moment: do you trust yourself? I’m not talking about in some vague, feel-good kind of way, but in a real, everyday sense. When you say you’re going to do something, do you actually follow through? Or do you break promises to yourself more often than you’d like to admit?

Now, be real with yourself for a second: how many times have you said, “I’m going to start working out,” or “I’m going to wake up earlier,” or “I’ll finally get serious about my goals”? And how many of those times have you actually stuck with it?

Here’s the truth: if a friend constantly told you they’d do something and never followed through, would you believe them? Probably not. So why do we keep doing that to ourselves and then feel bad when our confidence takes a hit? 🤔

The Damage of Broken Self-Promises

Every time you tell yourself you’re going to do something and then don’t, you send a subconscious message that your own word doesn’t matter. It chips away at your confidence little by little. And over time, you start doubting yourself, not just in small ways, but in big, life-changing ways.

This isn’t about guilt-tripping. This is about recognizing that self-trust is just like trust in any other relationship; it has to be built and protected. And the best part? You can rebuild it.

How to Rebuild Trust with Yourself

You don’t need to make some grand, dramatic overhaul. That’s where we usually get overwhelmed and give up, because we've set expectations that are impossible to maintain. Instead, start small. Prove to yourself, one step at a time, that your word matters.

1. Keep Small Promises to Yourself

Pick one thing today. Just one. It doesn’t have to be huge. Maybe it’s drinking more water, stretching for five minutes, or sending that text you’ve been meaning to send. The action itself doesn’t matter as much as the follow-through.

2. Create a Simple Accountability System

Write down your commitment in a journal or set a reminder on your phone. If it helps, tell a close friend what you plan to do and check in with them later, or give them a scheduled time to check in with you.

3. Celebrate Small Wins

Each time you follow through on something, acknowledge it. Don’t just brush it off like it’s nothing. Say to yourself, “I did what I said I’d do.” That reinforcement builds confidence over time.

4. Forgive Yourself When You Slip Up

We’re human. You will miss a commitment to yourself here and there. What matters is not beating yourself up, but instead recommitting. Self-trust isn’t built by perfection, it’s built by consistency and resilience.

Trust Is Built in the Small Moments

You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to get it right every single time. But you do need to start showing up for yourself. Even in the tiniest of ways. Because those little moments of follow-through add up, and before you know it, you’ll start believing in yourself again.

Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace. And most importantly follow through on the little things. Because you deserve to trust yourself again. 💙

So, what’s one small thing you can do today to start rebuilding that trust? Write it down. Say it out loud. And most importantly, go do it.

I’m rooting for you. Always.

With love,

Cathryn Benjamin

Mindset & Life Coach | Yoga Teacher | Wellness Advocate

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